Ben and I have a wonderful marriage, I've bragged about that here before, though it is not without effort that we've gotten to this place(and it is still getting better all the time). Now speaking of effort, there is one effort I want to challenge my married women readers with. I am personally taking this challenge and so I can honestly give it to you. But first some back round; I believe there are a lot of very important components to a wonderful marriage, one is honest communication. This is a foundation for a good marriage both you and and your spouse have to talk a lot. Communication is very important but my challenge is not about communication, (or at least not the conversation kind of communication). This is a deeper communication, a God created communication with our bodies... Yes I am talking about S E X. One of the number one things that couples in deteriorating marriages do not do, is have sex regularly. If you are struggling or working at your marriage or if you think it is already very good, we are all in the same boat, we have to make sex with our husbands a priority. Com'mon we(married people) know the connection and importance sex has in our relationship, I don't have to tell you this.(But I will:) It's intimate, it's just for us, it's as some say "as close the heavenlies as one can get on earth" and we get to do it together and is perfectly designed for a husband and wife to connect. Respectful, loving sex is like throwing another log on the fire, I'm not saying it's the only way but it is an important one.(Men if you're reading this; flowers, cleaning, kind words are also examples of logs on the fire) We also know that when communication(verbal) sucks or the once amazing fire is a flickering spark trying to stay aglow, we have no drive to satisfy our spouses needs. No fire, no woppee; no woppee no fire. It's a cycle that could end badly if not ended by the spouse who is holding out. That would be you the woman! ....Ok already what's the challenge... 28 days!
....28 days of WHAT CINDY!???! SEX! Yes, I am crazy, and Yes I meant 28 days in a row! Crazy for sure, crazy in love with my husband and crazy enough to tell you all that I'm doing this so that I can see who else I can inspire to set their marriage on fire again and be crazy in love. Oh i know some people think sex is way too Private/personal a thing to talk about like this but gang I'm not you're average bear and well we're in a new age. Maybe I have no idea what I am setting myself up for in telling you this..... Ben seemed keen on the idea LOL (Obviously) ...he also supports me sending out this challenge and he knows it has to be us women who encourage it.
One question left to be answered ... Why 28 days in a row? Well I got the idea from seeing some pastors challenge their congregations to do this and here are the benefits I think can result. (oh and just so you know this is as public as I am going with this...not going to the pulpit just in case you're wondering)
possible benefits...
-every day couples have to resolve the issues
-every day couples have to spend intimate time together
-every day couples'll have fun together
-we'll be surprised at the bond
-if you havn't been doing it maybe this will start a more regular "habit"
-wives'll be surprised how their husbands will feel so loved and what they might do in return
-who knows what can come of this unless we do it
.... anyway what can the harm be, see what happens when you make the effort...
it's only one month... (At least it is the shortest month)
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28 days starting February 1st -- How perfect February the love month!
LOL I don't know how to end this one ... "Just do it!" .... "Let the games begin!"
***This is indeed strange***
